Giving up feels so good — until is doesn’t!
What was offered as perfect, sweet relief quickly becomes a living nightmare. The supposed way out actually leads to the way down, into a deeper depth of despair. I have fallen for that trick a couple of times. I have given up. I let go of my faith. I got tired of fighting for something better and settled with the mediocre I already had. I can not fall for it again. I will not. I refuse.
My life has been difficult lately but I’d like to share with you some of my most powerful inspiration. I’ve learned to depend on it and keep it in the forefront of my mind. I can easlily get lost in the darkness and sadness of life’s stress and consistent disappointments. Since I know this, I stay prepared with lots of ammo to destroy pessimism, depression and doubt so that they don’t get a chance to place root in my heart. Not all of the tricks and tips I’ve learned over the years are easy to apply to reality but they work.
(1) Be Flexible. Life is not going to go the way you hope. There will be disasters, setbacks and many discouraging moments. You will try your hardest and you will still miss your mark. You will be denied and rejected. When you succeed, you will sometimes celebrate alone. Things will move more slowly than you expect them to and at other times they will move much faster.
(2) Be honest. There’s no need to lie to yourself or those around you. The fastest way down is to not embrace the truth. Live in a fairytale and watch your life crash and burn anyway. Not facing the truth doesn’t make reality any nicer. It just makes you unprepared. It takes away opportunity for natural and healthy coping mechanisms. It places you on the battlefield of life without any weapons. It takes away your ability to see the need to fight or if you do choose to fight you will fight the wrong enemy. Choose truth and leave the alternate realities and alternative facts alone. Walk in truth and WIN.
(3) Stop comparing. I have wasted so much time comparing myself to those around me AND comparing myself to my past (former self). Life’s demands and responsibilities change with time. Our past (with its capabilities, successes and failures) is not the standard we should currently live by. Challenge yourself to be your best today. Challenge yourself to glow up from your current place not a past position. Failure is waiting for you when you live in a world of comparison. You will get lost in a state of blindness from discontentment and discouragement. You will move in circles, some small and some large, but circles nevertheless. There will be no real, rewarding progress.
I’m currently facing a lot of health challenges. I’m not dying but my moves are slow and my energy is low. I have to function and reach my goals at a slower pace than I prefer. But guess what?! I’m reaching my goals! I’m so excited that I didn’t allow my limitations to stop me. I feel like a BOSS, baby! *pats shoulder* However, I know that without God and the insight I’ve gained through the years, I would not be where I am today. Saying that I’m blessed feels like a huge understatement but for now, it’s the best word I have.