I’m Not Acting Funny. I’m Changing.

Choosing to change isn’t easy. Seeing a need for change is even harder. We humans are creatures of habit and we can easily continue doing the same things over and over without a thought.

One of my biggest changes was choosing to transform from victim to victor. I’m the SURVIVOR that I am today because of changes that I made over 7 years ago. Out of desperation, I sought out a major life change. I couldn’t continue to be the person I once was. I wasn’t happy. I’d been severely abused and was broken in my mind and spirit. I didn’t know who I was. I felt like I was drowning. I couldn’t do it anymore.

Finding out who I was and loving on her became my main priority. I learned how to say no; ask for what I wanted and needed; and forgive myself for my many mistakes. I went a step further and forgave my abuser, too. I released him instead of dragging him along during my healing process. I didn’t wait for an apology. I just pushed ahead, focusing on finding and creating better tomorrows.

Since beginning my journey of hope and healing, I’ve had many flashbacks, triggers, and discouraging moments. I haven’t healed as fast as I hoped Iย  would. I’ve even ruffled a few feathers. People weren’t used to me standing up for myself. They weren’t used to hearing me say no to them. I had to keep moving forward anyway. I’ve stayed committed to myself and to the process of embracing change and self-evolution.

By nature, I’m rigid. By design, I can go with the flow. I don’t like not knowing what’s ahead. I prefer things to go as I planned. But I have fallen in love with the beauty of change. As uncomfortable as it’s been at times, it has done wonders for me. It forced me out of being so rigid. It allowed me to experience life and truly live! I’m so grateful for change and the ability to constantly grow and mature.

How about you? How do you deal with change? Do you refuse it or do you step up to the challenge? What personal changes are you making in your life?

Perhaps you’ll consider the following:

  1. Change is not your enemy. It’s a vehicle to carry you into the future. It wants to set you up for greatness.
  2. Change is a temporary discomfort. As long as it’s accepted, change can stop being a source of pain and become more of a source of improvement. It can bring opportunities to be better, do better, and live better.
  3. Change doesn’t erase fond memories and experiences. You don’t have to be afraid. You can embrace change without permanently losing the things you hold dear. In a way, they’re always with you.

May you be strengthened. May you find the courage to continue or begin your journey of embracing change and becoming the best you. I’m rooting for ya.



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Heyyy!! My name is Melissa. I'm affectionately called Missy. I'm a survivor who has learned to thrive! As one who has overcome depression, suicide, abuse and physical illness, I know that hope is real. Everything that I've been through has been for my good. My struggle helped me to more clearly see me and discover hope, happiness, and purpose.

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