Toxic Hope

It’s hard to believe that a relationship is doomed, unhealthy or on its last leg when you have so much faith that things can change. However, faith that causes one to put themselves and their wellness last is toxic. It kills. If your hope is causing you to stay in danger, remain miserable or lose your identity, then in fact, it isn’t hope. It’s a death sentence. Your courage will die. Your dreams will die. The fight within you for something better will die. I’ve lived it; and thanks to God, I also escaped it.

Toxic Hope destroys because it places emphasis on an expectation instead of truth and reality. Toxic Hope makes people desperate for positive results but blind to what’s actually happening. In relationships, it sends one on a Mission Impossible. People become so obsessed with believing that things will get better that they can’t see the signs that things are worsening or perhaps, staying the same. You hope and hope but never see real change. Toxic Hope is a dark hole camouflaged as a beautiful promise of better days. Unfortunately, those days don’t fully appear. 

Just because we hope to be loved and we hope our relationship will be successful doesn’t make it so. Sometimes, the people we love the most aren’t able to be what we need most.  It’s a hard reality to face but a necessary one. I’m so thankful for strength to walk away from any hope that doesn’t allow me to enjoy life. I’m now able to take a step or two back to see whether or not what I hope for is an actual possibility.

Are you happy? If nothing ever changed, for the better, in your relationship, will you be okay? Can you imagine your life being the way it is, today, forever? These are questions only you have the answer to and ones you must answer truthfully. Being in a toxic relationship doesn’t always feel toxic because of the element of hope. I’m not saying that hope is bad. I’m not telling you to never hope. I’m telling you to make sure that your hope doesn’t lead you into a dark place. I’m telling you to analyze the faith you have. Make sure that you have faith in things and people that will make your life beautiful. If your faith doesn’t lead you to a better place then it’s time to evaluate your belief.

I’m so excited for you to believe in yourself and to place hope in things that bring love, strength, courage, joy, healing, and peace. You are deserving. You are capable. Choose power. Choose you. Walk in happiness and be intentional. Choose what’s best for your life and what will promote wellness and good health. I’m rooting for you.

Hope Always,


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Heyyy!! My name is Melissa. I'm affectionately called Missy. I'm a survivor who has learned to thrive! As one who has overcome depression, suicide, abuse and physical illness, I know that hope is real. Everything that I've been through has been for my good. My struggle helped me to more clearly see me and discover hope, happiness, and purpose.

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