Perspective is everything. It’s a tool that I have learned to master and it has changed my life. 1. How do you view the world? That’s exactly the place I had to begin. I had to understand and own my views — how I felt about life, people and the things I had experienced. There… Read More
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Domestic Violence Awareness Month is halfway over, but my partners and I still have amazing speakers sharing their experiences, tips for healing after trauma, and creating conversation about life after abuse. Are you joining us? ___ WIN PRIZES by sharing a post about one thing you did that helped during your healing process after DV. It could be a self-care tip, a healing method you used, a journaling prompt, a realization, etc. The post must use the hashtag #HealingFromDV and from a public account (or screenshot a closed-account submission and DM to @resultsinamonth). ___ LIVE INTERVIEWS are coming up on 👉 10/20 @ 9 am ET – Jen Gilmour talks about “The Free, Weekly Online Support Chat for Abuse Survivors” .. .. 👉 10/21 @ 8:30 pm ET – Becky Scheliga talks about “How to Find Happiness Again After Abuse” .. .. 👉 10/29 @ 9 am ET - Jen Williams will talk about “Hypnosis for Healing” ___ RSVP via the link in my bio for replay access and more information.
SUCH A GOOD QUESTION!! Someone wanted to know if I had closure before I started my journey of hope and healing. The answer is no. I did not have closure when I began redesigning my life. I had been through extreme abuse; I was physically disabled; I had left a job and career that I loved; and my life was totally upside down. I didn't have answers. I knew that I was tired of being a victim. I was tired of allowing other people to dictate my mood and to tell me my worth. I was tired of just existing. I wanted more! I wanted to be happy again. I wanted to be me. So, without closure and without apologies, I moved forward in truth. I told myself that I was worthy of living a good life. I spoke kindly to myself. I also started acknowledging the things that bothered me. Instead of ignoring them I faced them. I stopped pretending and I started feeling. It was so painful! It was hard to face my reality and no longer run from it. I changed my thinking processes. I stopped thinking about all the insane stuff my ex did to me and started thinking about myself and how I wanted to be a better person. I cried but then I wiped my tears away. I got frustrated and then I regrouped. There were good days and there were bad days; but I didn't give up. #HealingFromDV ___ I wish that I had opened up to people and gotten help sooner. I did a lot of my initial healing by myself. I think that made it harder. But I did it with God. I love helping people get started. I love rolling up my sleeves and being with him in their process. That's why I started offering coaching sessions. It's a great opportunity for me to personally work with someone who is trying to live a better life or who is trying to heal. If you are ready to make some changes to your mental and emotional state reach out to me. We can chat (for free) for 30 minutes so that you can figure out if we are a good fit to work together to help you set and reach your goals. I'm available to talk face-to-face virtually as well as over the phone. Visit my website or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. All links are in my bio. 💜Missy
YOU MATTER TO ME 💜 I pray for my followers, friends and family. I pray for those I have met and those I may never meet. I pray that God would grant you hope, happiness and peace. I pray that you will find the strength you need to get through each day. I pray that whatever parts of you are broken will be healed. I pray that you know that you are not alone. I pray that you know that you don't have to suffer in vain. Pain can really produce purpose. I pray for you. I pray for those of you who are in desperate need of change. I pray that you will find the courage, strength, and the will to step out of what's comfortable so that you can step into what's incredible. 🌟 WHAT ARE YOU PRAYING FOR, TODAY?
THANK YOU @arielleestoria for your beautiful spoken word. This post is inspired by you. I.am.enough. I am working to believe every word. I know, in my head, that I'm enough but it's not always as known by my heart. I have been convinced too many times to count that I'm not enough. The message has rung LOUD and clear in my ears since I was a child. Thank you for reminding me that my journey is not in vain. Thank you for reminding me that I am on the right track. Loving myself is more important than any approval or acts of love that I could receive from an external source. I AM ENOUGH.
IT IS NOT... all smiles and laughter and a huge support system. Mental health starts with individuals doing what's necessary to be mentally and emotionally well. Poor mental health can negatively affect every part of your life. There are so many causes to be concerned with but if we aren't well we will not be at our best to support a cause longterm. The world is no better than the humans who live in it. How are you really doing? Are you being affected by thoughts of #suicide #depression #anxiety #eatingdisorders #postpartumdepression #schizophrenia #bipolardisorder #schizoaffectivedisorder #dissociativeidentitydisorder or one of the MANY other mental health concerns? ___ If you're suffering from any mental illness or concern, please, don't suffer in silence. I have lived with depression for over 25 years and I have been suicidal many times. There is help available. All it could take is for you to contact your primary care physician. Let them know your thoughts and concerns. If you're in the USA, you can reach out to a hotline such as The National Suicide Prevention Hotline (800-273-8255) or The National Alliance on Mental Illness NAMI (nami.org). For those of you outside of the USA, perhaps you can try doing an internet search to see what is offered in your area. Searches such as mental health crisis or mental health support.
I Was So Ashamed... I felt like I had failed. After almost 3 years, my relationship was over. I had gotten engaged and was considered to be part of an ideal couple. We met in church and were seen as examples for others to look up to. Ha! I guess we were examples but we were examples of what to NOT become and what NOT to do. It was hard to accept the reality that I had been so naive and so badly abused. I'd been to hell and back and no one knew. My family could tell that I was different but they were outdone when I started revealing details. ___ I was severely emotionally and mentally abused by the man I was engaged to marry. I was crazy in love with him (and to my own detriment viewed him as an escape from my abusive past). He was obsessed with the idea of me but was in love with his image and how folks would view us as a couple. Possessive, obsessive, controlling, condescending, and extremely secretive. He wanted to approve of my friends, the type of clothes I wore, my relationship with God, my personal decisions, etc. Every area of my life had his hands on it. I couldn't make decisions, tell MY personal business to others or even tell my family and friends where he worked without his say so. ___ Sharing these few examples makes me feel sick. Sometimes, my abuse feels like it was ages ago while at other times, it feels like it was just yesterday. I am so glad that God, friends and family gave me the strength to walk away. It wasn't easy. I almost went back to him. Remembering WHY I walked away has helped me to stay away, begin my healing journey, and start loving on me and treating me right. I'm worth so much more than I once settled for and I'm glad that I finally know it. #HealingFromDV